Listen, if you’re the kind of bride who knows exactly what she wants and isn’t afraid to invest in making it happen, this one’s for you. Being a bougie bride isn’t about being high-maintenance or having an extraordinary budget. You can create an elegant wedding celebration by focusing on YOU and creating a wedding day that actually reflects your vision, not someone else’s Pinterest board.
01. Start With What Actually Matters To You
Here’s the thing nobody tells you: you don’t have to care about everything. Just because wedding magazines say you need specialty cocktail napkins doesn’t mean you do. Our best recommendation? Figure out your non-negotiables first. Maybe it’s the venue, the photographer, or that dream bouquet you’ve been dreaming about since you got engaged. Put your budget where your heart is, and let everything else fall into place around it.
02. Hire Vendors Who Get It
This is not the time to settle for vendors who make you feel like you’re asking for too much. You want a photographer who understands your aesthetic without you having to explain it seventeen times. You want a planner who responds to your texts and doesn’t make you feel guilty for having opinions. The right vendors will match your energy and make you feel excited, not anxious.
Pro tip: Look for vendors whose work you genuinely love, not just who your cousin’s friend used. Just because they are recommended doesn’t mean they’re the best fit for you. Your wedding should look like you and feel like you, and that starts with choosing people who already speak your visual language.
03. Your Website Should Work As Hard As You Do
Okay, this is where I have to get a little businessy on you—your wedding website matters more than you think. This is where your guests are going to get every single detail about your day, and if it’s confusing or hard to navigate, you’re going to get the same questions 400 times (and at times where .
You don’t need a custom or overly complicated wedding website to pass along the information your guests need to hear. Our favorite wedding website to use + other resources are linked on this page for you to check out if you aren’t sure where to begin.
04. Don’t Apologize For Your Vision
The fastest way to end up with a wedding that feels like someone else’s? Letting too many opinions into the room. Your mom wants traditional. Your best friend thinks you should do something “fun.” Your future mother-in-law has thoughts.
Here’s your permission slip: you don’t have to incorporate everyone’s feedback. Be gracious, but be firm. This is your day, and the bougie bride knows that sometimes the most generous thing you can do is stay true to your vision so everyone can experience something truly special.
05. Invest In The Experience, Not Just The Aesthetics
Yes, you want it to look good (obviously), but don’t forget about how it feels. Great lighting, comfortable seating, food that’s actually delicious, a timeline that doesn’t feel rushed—these are the things people remember. The bougie bride thinks about her guests’ experience just as much as she thinks about the Instagram photos. She also recognizes that there’s a budget in it all, and if you want the most bang for your buck, focus on things that people can touch & feel the most!
At the end of the day, being a bougie bride just means you know what you want and you’re willing to invest in making it happen. No apologies, no compromises on the things that matter. Your wedding should feel like the best version of you—and honestly? You deserve nothing less.
With love and confetti,
Amanda
